Tag Archive: Self-Image

Sep 16 2014

The Change Challenge

 

    Change happens!  Seasons change, our age changes, jobs and careers change, our bodies change, and it goes on. For many of the changes, we have no control, and others are completely within our hands.  

  If you knew that by changing a few simple things that you could realize all your dreams and goals, what would you change? Why not begin now and take the CHANGE CHALLENGE?  Here’s how to begin.

Take a journal or piece of paper and make two lists.  The FIRST list is all the things that you HAVE TO DO!  Once the list is completed, look it over and see what you can eliminate.  Maybe you really don’t have to do some of the things you listed.  List number TWO is all about your wants.  What do you truly WANT to do.  Go for it and dream big,

  Now you are going to ask yourself – which of these applies to me?

I HAVE TO CHANGE & I WANT TO

I DON’T HAVE TO CHANGE, BUT I WANT TO

I DON’T WANT TO CHANGE, BUT I HAVE TO

I DON’T WANT TO CHANGE & I DONT HAVE TO!

     Review each of the four categories and then decide which one best suits your situation today.  To help you I have defined them in greater detail.

I DON’T WANT TO CHANGE, BUT I HAVE TO!

Change happens and then we are forced to make adjustments. What life circumstances have caused you to have to change? Are you in transition?  Be kind to yourself.  Then step back and take a look at what has to happen. Let be your guide.

I DON’T HAVE TO CHANGE, BUT I WANT TO.

There is nothing you really have to do, but there are things you want to do.  Look at your second list and move onto this page any actions that are appropriate.  Are they any items that made it to both pages?   “It’s Play time.”

I HAVE TO CHANGE & I WANT TO.

Is there something in our life nagging at you?  You feel uncomfortable or unfulfilled?  You know that you have to change and you are ready to do it.  Look at your lists – move items from the list to this page.  “Let Passion by your guide.”

I DON’T WANT TO CHANGE & I DONT HAVE TO!

If you are at peace with yourself, then stop and smell the roses. You have nothing to change.  Each day say, “ I am at peace with my life.” How are you going to be peaceful?

      Now, look at your two lists, where can you place some of the items on your Have to and Want to lists.  In which category do they fit?

     Your challenge is to determine what you need, or want to do to feel more fulfilled and accomplished.   You will have 30 days to see a change.  Select something simple and easy, and make a commitment to change something every day.  

    YOU MUST WRITE DOWN WHAT IT IS THAT YOU ARE GOING TO ACCOMPLISH.  Then keep a log by posting what you did on this blog every day.  Everyone involved will be supportive and give you a big “Way to Go” as you move forward on your goals.

   Are you ready to begin?  Can’t wait to see all the wonderful stories.

 

 

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Sep 29 2013

YOU ARE NEVER ALONE

“It may seem as if others can add to or take from, what you have and who you are, yet at the end of every day, what you have and who you are is entirely a function of your thoughts, beliefs, and expectations.”  The Universe

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Isolation is a terrible thing.  Whether it is by virtue of your physical location or situation, or it is emotional, being cut off from the world produces a myriad of distortions about life.

Emotional isolation often results from a variety of circumstances.  Someone may say something that is very hurtful, which begins to erode your sense of self, ie: self-worth, self-esteem, self-confidence and so on. This internalizing further causes you to begin to withdraw and stop socializing.  Before you know it you are completely convinced that you are not worthy, have no value and are filled with shame.

One of the worst cases of isolation results from emotional or physical battering.  Young women are most often the victims, with men comprising only 15% of the total battered community. No one deserves to be battered or controlled by another person. What is truly sad and disturbing is that the victim thinks that she deserves it because she has done something wrong.

Each month I host an Inspiration/networking breakfast where women share their inner most fears and anxieties. This past month, one woman talked about her nine-years of marriage as a battered wife. “Each time he hit me I would think that maybe it was because the floor wasn’t clean enough or that can done something else wrong,” she said.  “Because of the bruises, I hated to be seen in public and became very withdrawn.”

Fear, anxiety, shame, are just a few of the emotions that lead to isolation, not withstanding the bruises.  Once in that very dark place, your mind and thoughts begin to further distort reality causing a downward spiral into a very deep depression. You become your own worst enemy because you are afraid and ashamed to reach out and seek help.  The greatest fear is of being judged as worthless.

You are never alone! For every emotion that exists, there are thousands of people feeling it. We all experience negative thoughts about ourselves at different times for different reasons.  The best thing that can be done to regain a positive sense of “self “ is to talk to someone about it. Although our friends can be very supportive, sharing our innermost fears with them can sometimes make us feel far to vulnerable and exposed.

 

Fortunately today there are many places for you to go to get the help that you desire and deserve.  Don’t be alone and live in your own head with negative thoughts. Reach-out as there is always someone there to help you.  Our goal today and every day is to share our passion of Energizing, Encouraging, Engaging, and

Empowering you to learn that you are THE MOST IMPORTANT PERSON IN YOUR LIFE! Always love you.

 

 

OPEN THE CAGE

M.J.Waldock, 10/09

 

Fear, it paralyzes us to the core.

Our central being becomes trapped

in anxiety and doubt.

Caged like the lion we peer through

the bars at the outside.

Frantically pacing to understand

our dilemma and find an answer.

Always reaching through the openings

Grasping at the chance to gain freedom.

Open the cage, please, and let me out.

 

Marlene J. Waldock is an inspiration speaker and personal coach.  She is the former TV Host of NJ Business and has written a book of inspirational poetry.  For more information visit: http://www.becausewearewomen.com.

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