Tag Archive: love

Sep 29 2013

YOU ARE NEVER ALONE

“It may seem as if others can add to or take from, what you have and who you are, yet at the end of every day, what you have and who you are is entirely a function of your thoughts, beliefs, and expectations.”  The Universe

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Isolation is a terrible thing.  Whether it is by virtue of your physical location or situation, or it is emotional, being cut off from the world produces a myriad of distortions about life.

Emotional isolation often results from a variety of circumstances.  Someone may say something that is very hurtful, which begins to erode your sense of self, ie: self-worth, self-esteem, self-confidence and so on. This internalizing further causes you to begin to withdraw and stop socializing.  Before you know it you are completely convinced that you are not worthy, have no value and are filled with shame.

One of the worst cases of isolation results from emotional or physical battering.  Young women are most often the victims, with men comprising only 15% of the total battered community. No one deserves to be battered or controlled by another person. What is truly sad and disturbing is that the victim thinks that she deserves it because she has done something wrong.

Each month I host an Inspiration/networking breakfast where women share their inner most fears and anxieties. This past month, one woman talked about her nine-years of marriage as a battered wife. “Each time he hit me I would think that maybe it was because the floor wasn’t clean enough or that can done something else wrong,” she said.  “Because of the bruises, I hated to be seen in public and became very withdrawn.”

Fear, anxiety, shame, are just a few of the emotions that lead to isolation, not withstanding the bruises.  Once in that very dark place, your mind and thoughts begin to further distort reality causing a downward spiral into a very deep depression. You become your own worst enemy because you are afraid and ashamed to reach out and seek help.  The greatest fear is of being judged as worthless.

You are never alone! For every emotion that exists, there are thousands of people feeling it. We all experience negative thoughts about ourselves at different times for different reasons.  The best thing that can be done to regain a positive sense of “self “ is to talk to someone about it. Although our friends can be very supportive, sharing our innermost fears with them can sometimes make us feel far to vulnerable and exposed.

 

Fortunately today there are many places for you to go to get the help that you desire and deserve.  Don’t be alone and live in your own head with negative thoughts. Reach-out as there is always someone there to help you.  Our goal today and every day is to share our passion of Energizing, Encouraging, Engaging, and

Empowering you to learn that you are THE MOST IMPORTANT PERSON IN YOUR LIFE! Always love you.

 

 

OPEN THE CAGE

M.J.Waldock, 10/09

 

Fear, it paralyzes us to the core.

Our central being becomes trapped

in anxiety and doubt.

Caged like the lion we peer through

the bars at the outside.

Frantically pacing to understand

our dilemma and find an answer.

Always reaching through the openings

Grasping at the chance to gain freedom.

Open the cage, please, and let me out.

 

Marlene J. Waldock is an inspiration speaker and personal coach.  She is the former TV Host of NJ Business and has written a book of inspirational poetry.  For more information visit: http://www.becausewearewomen.com.

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Mar 16 2011

Stop and Smell the Roses

“One word frees us of all the weight and pain of life. That word is LOVE!” Sophocles

Life moves so quickly, we often don’t take time for ourselves, our family, friends and the things that are important to us.

Then the day arrives when we look into the mirror and wonder where all the time went and what have we done with it.

Our March Inspiration Breakfast focused on the Law of Attraction. One of the ways in which we attract what we want is to talk, think, and write down the things we love. Think about something you do, people with whom you associate, a place and activity, anything that you hear the words in your head –

I love to do this or I love that.?

FOR THE NEXT MINUTE OR SO – WRITE DOWN EVERYTHING YOU LOVE – DON’T HOLD ANYTHING BACK.

Below is a poem I wrote about smelling the roses. I remember the day I wrote this, I was standing in my old office, thinking about how frantic life was and that I needed to stop.

STOP! SMELL THE ROSES

by M.J. Waldock, May 2003

Running, running to and fro

Scattered thoughts

Shattered dreams

Fractured days

In a maze

Stop and smell the roses

Swift and sweet the enemy time

Important things

Nothing done

Much to do

With no value too

Stop and smell the roses

One more day with no pay

Thoughts abound

Make no sound

Reach the spot

At the top

Stop and smell the roses

Take a break, break a leg

Change the pace

Find new space

Turn around

Stomp the ground

Stop and smell the roses

Find a friend with time to spend

Take a trip

Buy some stuff

Clear your mind

From the grind

Stop and smell the roses

It’s the day you’re okay

Time and money

Make their way

Find your niche

Scratch the itch

Stop and smell the roses

I love flowers. In fact I have often thought that in my next life I would be a florist, or something that had to do with flowers. I love them when they have been refrigerated and there is a cool freshness about them. Think about the petal of a rose, how soft it is. And then of course there is the luscious scent. I can smell it, can’t you?

A friend of mine recently sent me an e-mail with all types of roses. She said, share them with your friends. So I am sharing them with you. Close your eyes and smell this beautiful rose.

Now ask yourself, how often do I stop to smell the roses in my life? Do I take the time for myself, give myself permission to want what I want?

The More You Think About And Verbalize What You Love,

The More You Will Attract It To You. We Are All About Energy!

I also love the opportunity I have to share my thoughts with you.

Please share your thoughts with me and share these flowers with your friends.

Be kind to you today. You deserve only the best.

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