Because We Are Women

Have you ever wondered why your dreams and goals don’t happen?  Maybe there isn’t any room for them!

Feng Shui experts are always showing and telling us the importance of clearing the clutter from our lives to not only make room for new things, but to give us renewed energy.  I went searching the net for some information and here is what one expert said:

Clutter makes you “feel exhausted, anxious and overwhelmed.  Think of it in terms of practicality: If you need to balance your checkbook but your bank statement is buried under a mountain of old receipts, you’ll waste valuable time looking for what you need. Once you do find it, you’ll be tired and annoyed even before you begin the actual task.

Clutter is low, stagnant, and confusing energy that drains us, causing us to be too tired to do anything. Depending on where the clutter is located, in the home or office, it can also negatively influence, or even completely block, the flow of events in specific areas of our lives.  It simply makes us unable to Dream Big.

For months I have looked at my closet, with clothes that I will never wear again, and said to myself, “Get rid of some of this stuff.”  So last week I gave myself permission to take a day to “Clear the Closet Clutter.”  Well actually, I utilize several closets, so it was an all day event.  While I was clearing the clutter, I came across a box of note cards that I had received at the Oprah event I attended several years ago. This was the event that caused me to launch Because We Are Women.

The note cards contained beautiful famous quotes, some of which I have used in my inspirational speeches.  The first and one that I use most often is by Eleanor Roosevelt:

“The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.”

How wonderful is that!  We all have dreams and yet we don’t often believe in the dream.  In my last blog post I talked about dreaming big and the new TV Pilot we have produced.  From an idea in my imagination, we have the pilot, a fabulous trailer to present to prospects, and even a nomination for an award at the Hoboken Film Festival.  Now it takes a continued belief that the pilot will be picked up and that millions of women will be inspired and empowered.   I know that they want to be empowered; we all want to be empowered and inspired.

I have hosted a couple of Inspiration breakfasts, and I am always so pleased when the women say – “I really needed that.”  Life is tough, particularly today.  We are consistently bombarded with negative information – the economy, the war, and terrorists – and it goes on and on.  The inspiration breakfasts, much like the TV Show, are to bring positive thoughts and energy into our lives.  We need positive, lots of it.

At the annual BWAW events, one of the exercises we do is called CEAR YOUR PATH.  The guests are first asked to write down their vision for themselves – their dreams.  Once that is completed, we pose the question, “What is in your way?  What do you need to remove so that you can realize your dream?”   Then we give the guests small pieces of paper upon which they are instructed to write down what they want to throw away so that they can clear their path.   The anonymous slips of paper are then thrown in to a box and destroyed.   The path is then cleared of all obstacles.  Try it and see what happens.  We surveyed the women to see what they had thrown away and most often it was Negative thoughts, Negative friends, fear of trusting people, fear of change, self doubt and those nagging negative voices in our head.

What do you need to throw away?  Not just clothes, or old papers, or stuff, but in your heard and heart?  Clearing the path means that something is going to change.  And change is the most difficult thing we have to do.  We try to change the world around us, and the people, but there is only one thing that we can change, ourselves. There was another quote on the note cards by Mahatma Gandhi:

“You must be the change you wish to see in the world.”

No matter what you want to see happen, you must do it first – be the change.  One tiny step is all it takes to see things change.  Clear the clutter! It is easy, however time consuming, to throw out old clothes or destroy unnecessary and outdated papers and stuff.  It is not so easy to clear the thoughts in our mind.  This is a poem that I wrote several years ago that might help to clear the clutter.

I THINK AND THINK  -

By M. J. Waldock

I think and think the whole day long,

About the things that can go wrong.

I think I’ve failed before I start

Which takes away the very spark,

To do the things I want to do

That haunts my sleep the whole night through.

What can I do to clear the path

Of obstacles that cause such wrath?

The boulders in my mind that make

The journey that my soul will take

A long and rugged road that winds

Forever twisting in my mind.

Where will it end, this bumpy road

When will I shed this heavy load?

Of always thinking of the worst,

I know I’m surely not that cursed.

I think I’ll step upon the path,

And meet the boulder with a laugh.

I can succeed, I know I can

Just think of where it all began.

A simple phrase from long ago

From one I thought was in the know.

Some tiny word so negative,

Is this the way we really live?

With other peoples doubts and fears

that stop us from our goals so near?

I think I will relieve my mind

Of thoughts, that merely waste my time.

I will begin the day anew

And take a very different view,

Of life that’s far above the road

And see myself without the load.

I think I’ll think the whole day long

Of how I’ll meet the cheering throngs

Of those who honor my success

For clearing out this ugly mess

Of thoughts, that made my day so dim

And made my dreams of life so grim

I think I’ll think and think again

About the ways I’m going to win.

And when those ugly thoughts arise

Which cause my dreams to be disguised,

I’ll take a step upon the road

And start to move, however slow

Until I reach the finish line.

And then, I’ll know, it was my mind

That made me think the whole day long,

About the things that could go wrong.

Hope you enjoyed it.

Okay time to start clearing the clutter in your life today and make way for all your wildest dreams to come true.  Get in the closet, or the boxes, get rid of old papers and magazines, anything that drains your energy.  Now take the sheet of paper and write down the negatives things you are thinking.  Throw the paper away or burn it and let it float into the atmosphere releasing everything negative.

Can’t wait to hear from you.

Next time we will talk more about change –

Here is another quote from Ralph Waldo Emerson -  “Do not go where the path my lead; go instead where there is no path and leave a trail.”

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