May 02 2010

Your Mind Is Not An Antique Shop


by M.J.Waldock, 10/09

Fear, it paralyzes us to the core.

Our central being becomes trapped

in anxiety and doubt.

Caged like the lion we peer through

the bars at the outside.

Frantically pacing to understand

our dilemma and find an answer.

Always reaching through the openings

Grasping at the chance to gain freedom.

Open the cage, please, and let me out.

Several months ago I attended a conference and the woman speaking said something that caused me to think about how we hang onto things in our past. I came up with a phrase – “Your Mind is Not an Antique Shop.” Even though antiques can be beautiful in your home, in your mind, heart and subconscious, they can be deadly.

We store too many negative thoughts and feelings that hold us back. We take to heart the things that other people say and do, becoming owners of ideas that are not ours. Particularly when we are young, innocent, and have no way of combating the other person. Unfortunately, the person making those negative comments is often someone we look up to, hold in high esteem, and think has all the answers. They have no idea what they are doing to us.

For Example, remember a time when you shared a dream about something you wanted to do in your future and the comment you received was “What makes you think you can do that?” Or maybe they said, “You are not smart enough, pretty enough, you don’t have enough money, who would want you,” and the list goes on. They weren’t talking about you they were talking about them! It was what they couldn’t do, not what you couldn’t do. Unfortunately you spent the rest of your life having low-self esteem, no self-confidence, bad self-image, and never pursued your dreams. All because someone else didn’t think that they could achieve your dream. You caged yourself because of someone else’s inadequacy.

Now, many years later, you are unhappy, unfulfilled, and wondering why you never moved forward to pursue.

If you haven’t read the Four Agreements by Don Miguel RuizI highly recommend it. In the book he says that we should agree to only four things, which are listed below.

Agreement 1

Be impeccable with your word – Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.

Agreement 2

Don’t take anything personally – Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.

Agreement 3

Don’t make assumptions – Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

Agreement 4

Always do your best – Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.

There is a lot more to the book, so get a copy.

The point here is, let go of the thoughts from your past that hold you back, that erode your self-esteem and cause you to think that you are not worthy – You are!!!

Take those “Antiquated” thoughts and identify them, then put a positive spin on them – create an affirmation. Look at yourself in the mirror everyday and say out loud three times – I am….(find the most positive word you can think of). For example – I am Fabulous, Talented, beautiful, etc. What ever makes you feel great.

NOW “Open the Cage” and let yourself out. What are the antiques in your mind? I would like to hear about them. Tell us your story.

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  1. MJW

    Hope you like this. Everything is all about you!!! Learn to be self-centered and self-serving in a positive way.

  2. Terri (Chicago)

    I loved the Title “Your mind is not an Antique Shop” So many of us look Back and think about where we have been in terms of how to move forward. I think about ReTooling (education) as a means of looking Forward. Getting a credential that allows one to do something different entirely! I think the economic culture for this is perfect right now—no one is hiring, one might as well invest in one’s self so as to be ready when the economy turns around.

  3. Marlene

    I have been thinking about my antique shop. Old thoughts of not being adequate. So many good things happening. Time for the fire sale.

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