Category Archive: smile

Jun 08 2016


“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud 
was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”  Anais Nin

Dear Friends, Colleagues and Supporters,



After watching the Steve Jobs movie prior to my trip to China, I used my fourteen-hour flight to begin reading his book.  I find his thought process fascinating, although I understand how difficult he was to work for and with.  I just read the chapter entitled, “Reality Distortion Field (RDF).”  The definition of a Reality Distortion Field is “creating a new world through mental force.” The term actually came from a Star Trek episode but has been attributed to Jobs who used this method to inspire his team. One of the Apple employees said, “You did the impossible because you didn’t know it was impossible.” We certainly have experienced how Jobs and Apple achieved the impossible and have changed our worlds.  How many of you have an apple device – IPhone, IPad?
     So what does a “RDF” mean for you and me? It supports the idea that you are what you think and do?  Too often we have a desire or dream and we convince ourselves that it’s just not possible and it’s not going to happen. Is it really impossible or is it your lack of belief in yourself and the universe?
    What if you created your own Reality Distortion Field?  What if you so totally believed that it would happen that you began doing all the things that make it happen?  Want to try it?
     Begin by selecting something that you want but think can’t or won’t happen. Write it down in your journal or on a piece of paper in clear detail.  Which part of it do you think is impossible? Remember, it’s your thought process and lack of confidence or belief that may be making it impossible.
    Now look at your desire from your own Reality Distortion Field. Make a list of the steps that it will take to get there, create a timeline as to when you want your desire to become a reality. Find someone to hold you accountable to adhering to the timeline. Then BELIEVE, BELIEVE, BELIEVE and ACT, ACT, ACT.
     In the April issue of the OPRAH magazine, there are a group of women who are on a quest to get to their ideal weight and health. Some are tipping the scale at over 300 pounds.  Weight loss for most people always seems to be an impossible task. But these women are creating their own RDF by making a plan and sticking to it.  They are seeing themselves as successful, which is what a Realty Distortion Field is, believing in the impossible.
     Also in this issue there is an article by Martha Beck where she talks about playing the “Pennies from Heaven” game. Here’s how it works.  Select a sum of money that you believe can come to you out of the blue.  Write it on a piece of paper and then forget about it. One woman wanted $1000 and three weeks later received an $800 refund from a miscalculation on a retirement deduction.  The impossible just became possible.
      My Reality Distortion Field is that within the next three months I will be at my ideal weight and will have completed the first draft of a book I have wanted to write for a long time.
      If you would like me to help you with your Reality Distortion Field, send me an email and let’s talk.  Just like Steve Jobs, my passion in life is making a difference. Hope this newsletter made a little bit of a difference for you today.  I look forward to hearing from you.  Here’s to creating a beautiful Reality Distortion Field!

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Feb 15 2014

All for the Love of You


“The most powerful relationship you will ever have is the relationship with yourself.” Steve Maraboli
Dear Friends, Colleagues and Supporters,

    The biggest struggle in life is the struggle to know, embrace, and accept ourselves, with all of our faults. We are so quick to criticize ourselves for the slightest imperfection. What do you say when you look in the mirror in the morning? I had a friend who would look in the mirror and say “Hi Gorgeous!”  Have you done that lately?  Probably not!
Acceptance is key.  But then, how do we learn to accept ourselves when we can’t stop beating ourselves up about simple things, stupid things, things that will not change the course of our lives.

          “Love is the great miracle cure. Loving ourselves works
                miracles in our lives.”- Louise L. Hay
   How do we learn to love ourselves, here are some simple steps.
1. Know yourself – start a journal, join a group, explore
2. Be true to you – stand your ground
3. Respect yourself – others will too
4. Value you – you are the most important person in your life
5. Expand yourself – step out of your comfort zone.
When you begin doing the above five things, you will learn acceptance and love.  And because we are energy which is driven by our thoughts, our self-love and acceptance will change everything.  Our energy will shift, our attitude will change and people will notice.
It’s all good.  I hope that you take some time to reflect.
Tell me your best self-love story.
Declare today national love your day!

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Sep 29 2013


“It may seem as if others can add to or take from, what you have and who you are, yet at the end of every day, what you have and who you are is entirely a function of your thoughts, beliefs, and expectations.”  The Universe


Isolation is a terrible thing.  Whether it is by virtue of your physical location or situation, or it is emotional, being cut off from the world produces a myriad of distortions about life.

Emotional isolation often results from a variety of circumstances.  Someone may say something that is very hurtful, which begins to erode your sense of self, ie: self-worth, self-esteem, self-confidence and so on. This internalizing further causes you to begin to withdraw and stop socializing.  Before you know it you are completely convinced that you are not worthy, have no value and are filled with shame.

One of the worst cases of isolation results from emotional or physical battering.  Young women are most often the victims, with men comprising only 15% of the total battered community. No one deserves to be battered or controlled by another person. What is truly sad and disturbing is that the victim thinks that she deserves it because she has done something wrong.

Each month I host an Inspiration/networking breakfast where women share their inner most fears and anxieties. This past month, one woman talked about her nine-years of marriage as a battered wife. “Each time he hit me I would think that maybe it was because the floor wasn’t clean enough or that can done something else wrong,” she said.  “Because of the bruises, I hated to be seen in public and became very withdrawn.”

Fear, anxiety, shame, are just a few of the emotions that lead to isolation, not withstanding the bruises.  Once in that very dark place, your mind and thoughts begin to further distort reality causing a downward spiral into a very deep depression. You become your own worst enemy because you are afraid and ashamed to reach out and seek help.  The greatest fear is of being judged as worthless.

You are never alone! For every emotion that exists, there are thousands of people feeling it. We all experience negative thoughts about ourselves at different times for different reasons.  The best thing that can be done to regain a positive sense of “self “ is to talk to someone about it. Although our friends can be very supportive, sharing our innermost fears with them can sometimes make us feel far to vulnerable and exposed.


Fortunately today there are many places for you to go to get the help that you desire and deserve.  Don’t be alone and live in your own head with negative thoughts. Reach-out as there is always someone there to help you.  Our goal today and every day is to share our passion of Energizing, Encouraging, Engaging, and

Empowering you to learn that you are THE MOST IMPORTANT PERSON IN YOUR LIFE! Always love you.




M.J.Waldock, 10/09


Fear, it paralyzes us to the core.

Our central being becomes trapped

in anxiety and doubt.

Caged like the lion we peer through

the bars at the outside.

Frantically pacing to understand

our dilemma and find an answer.

Always reaching through the openings

Grasping at the chance to gain freedom.

Open the cage, please, and let me out.


Marlene J. Waldock is an inspiration speaker and personal coach.  She is the former TV Host of NJ Business and has written a book of inspirational poetry.  For more information visit:

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Apr 29 2012

Realizing your dreams

A Little Star –  by M. J. Waldock

I wished upon a little star

Up in the sky away so far

To be the fairest in the land

And be the best at all I can.

To be upon the stage of life

A messenger to help end strife

To be a voice for those who need

Encouraging words to hear and read.

I wished upon a little star

Up in the sky away so far

To boost you from the ugly mire

And write the words that would inspire

To lead you through the maze of thoughts

And help you learn what you forgot

When stress upon you really mounts

You are the one who truly counts.

I wished upon a little star

Up in the sky away so far

That when I stood upon the stage

To share the words from page to page

I’d speak so very loud and clear

I know that you would surely hear

And cast aside your gloomy cloud

And take your place among the crowd.

I wished upon a little star

Up in the sky away so far

To teach you how to look each day

Into the mirror and always say

“I love you, you’re the very best,

Together we will pass the test.

And when the end of day arrives

You’ll know you have again survived

Because the friend within your heart,
Was with you from the very start.

I wished upon a little star

Up in the sky away so far

To write this poem just for you

So when you’re feeling down and blue

You’ll take the time to read it through

Then tell yourself, “I Do Love You!”

I wished upon a little star

Up in the sky away so far

That you would find this little poem

And pick it up and take it home.

I made this wish upon the star

And so I wished, and here you are.



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Jan 11 2012



Were you celebrating the end of a great year, and looking forward to the 2012?        Or were you regretting all the things that you had not done?

Every year we look back with regret about the things we did not do, either in our      business or personal lives.  But we don’t have to do that.  We can take charge          and  begin this year with purpose and intention.




“Life is not a dress rehearsal. Quit practicing what you’re going to do, and just do it. In one bold stroke you can transform today.”  Marilyn Grey

When you were a child you had great aspirations about what you would be when you grew up.  As time when on, you let those dreams fade.  Close your eyes.  What dream did you let go? If you could have anything in this coming year and your future, what would it be?  If you don’t think about, write it down and then talk about it, you will not do anything with intention or purpose.


“Your present circumstances don’t determine where you can go; they merely determine where you start.”  Nido Qubein

Sometimes before you can start something new,  you let to let go of the old.  Begin by answering this question.  WHAT WAS GOOD IN 2012?  You want to build on what was good and really worked.  Maybe you need to go back to basics and think about the things that have worked over the years.

Ask yourself,  what didn’t work?  Relationships that didn’t work, business ventures that didn’t work, clients that overworked and underpaid you.  Get rid of them.  Bring into your life all that is positive.


“You will never win if you never begin.”  Robert H. Schuller

What do you want for yourself in 2012?  Take a moment to write down your thoughts.  Then select the most import item on your list and write down three things you can do to not have any regrets at the end of the year.  You will never accomplish your goal in one step.  Keep trying. Stay focused.  Never waver.

Life is what YOU make it.  In the end, you are the only one responsible.

What is your dream?


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Oct 06 2011

Reflections of a life

“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life… Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition…” Steve Jobs.

We often talk about what makes someone successful. We say; Follow your dreams, live the life you desire and it goes on. But how many of us really do this, follow our dreams. We think we don’t have permission.

For the last few years we have watched the Apple corporation rise up from the ashes and launch one sexy piece of technology after another. An apple user from way back, I have many of them. In fact right now, we own 5 Apple computers, two IPHones and a few IPods. And they are all great. I remember when I began using my first Apple/Mac Plus, there were so many naysayers.

What makes one person be so focused and driven? Many people say that he was ruthless. I recently read an article in the NY Times that said, Steve Jobs relied mostly on his own instinct to create products. He did not have focus groups, he just knew what people wanted, sleek, easy to use, interesting pieces of technology. And even during his illness, which much have been debilitating, he still forged ahead.

So why can’t the rest of us do the same? Why do we stop and wait for something to happen before we begin following our dream. Is it that we listen to too many people?

In my workshops and breakfasts I often reference the book The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. One of the four agreements is: Take nothing personally because it is never about you. That Noise of Others, those limiting beliefs stop us all too often.

Take a step and identify the noise, then label it and give it a name. Assign it to the person it be longs to and then toss it away. Be the person you are and don’t let anyone rain on your parade.

Life is certainly not perfect. And for many, their birthright gives them much more flexibility than others. As we look around us we see people who are barely hanging on, or living with major impairments, disfigurements and disabilities. I am so lucky to live a very good life.

I can only hope that we reflect on our lives, and the lives of those who make a difference in the world and understand this. Not everyone can be a Steve Jobs. Not everyone can create things that change the way people live. But everyone can be kind to themselves and others, and can make an attempt every day to do something that matters.

This was my facebook post from the other day. Enjoy.

Make everyday meaningful. Do something important that takes you closer to your dreams. Have fun. Love yourself. Tell those you care about that you love them – you never know when they may disappear from your life. Be thankful for everything – you probably have more than you think. Think about this – what would life be like if tomorrow you received everything you were thankful for today. Make it a great one.

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Aug 23 2011

My Higher Power

Whether you are a writer, speaker, business owner, mother/father, daughter/son, friend, wife/husband, or any other role you have in life, you may be seeking strength. Look to your higher power and ask for help. This is my thought about how to do it.

I will soon find the words to express all my thoughts.

I trust that you will give them to me in every way.

Throughout the day you give me the strength to be just who I am.

I ask for your help to continue the journey.

Give me the desire to be all that I can.

The will to take the daily steps.

The love to soothe my lonely heart.

The angel to guard my life and soul.

The friends with whom to share the wealth.

The time to live with no regrets.

The love of my life to lie beside.

A mother’s love that never dies.

You give me all this in such a way,

I can go out and thrive in this day.

How has your higher power helped you? Share your thoughts.

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Aug 10 2011

The Winding Road of Life

It’s been a long time since I have written anything on this blog. For me, the summer has been filled with twists and turns. An aging parent and many personal questions. I often wonder if the road ever becomes less severe.

This is a poem I wrote several years ago. Guess I have been on this path for a long time. Enjoy. Look forward to hearing from you about your journey.


Down the winding road

I see a pretty flower

I stop to smell its luscious scent

And stay there for a while.

The sun begins to fade

The rain begins to pour

It hit the ground with such a pound

The flower was no more.

Down the winding road

I see a fluffy cat,

I stop to stroke its silky fur

And take a little nap.

There came a nasty thud

It sounded like a clap.

And then I heard this raspy voice

Say scat you ugly cat.

Down the winding road

I see a feeble man

I stop to say “How do you do”

And take his trembling hand.

He said I’d like to walk

For just a little while

My legs are old and I am tired

I’ll never make a mile.

Down the winding road

I see a spreading tree

I climb its branch right to the top

And there’s the shining sea.

I am a bit surprised

The road it winds no more

There is a straight and narrow path

Directly to the shore.

And so the winding road

Has finally seen its time.

The only place it twists and winds

Is in the shadows of my mind.

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Mar 16 2011

Stop and Smell the Roses

“One word frees us of all the weight and pain of life. That word is LOVE!” Sophocles

Life moves so quickly, we often don’t take time for ourselves, our family, friends and the things that are important to us.

Then the day arrives when we look into the mirror and wonder where all the time went and what have we done with it.

Our March Inspiration Breakfast focused on the Law of Attraction. One of the ways in which we attract what we want is to talk, think, and write down the things we love. Think about something you do, people with whom you associate, a place and activity, anything that you hear the words in your head –

I love to do this or I love that.?


Below is a poem I wrote about smelling the roses. I remember the day I wrote this, I was standing in my old office, thinking about how frantic life was and that I needed to stop.


by M.J. Waldock, May 2003

Running, running to and fro

Scattered thoughts

Shattered dreams

Fractured days

In a maze

Stop and smell the roses

Swift and sweet the enemy time

Important things

Nothing done

Much to do

With no value too

Stop and smell the roses

One more day with no pay

Thoughts abound

Make no sound

Reach the spot

At the top

Stop and smell the roses

Take a break, break a leg

Change the pace

Find new space

Turn around

Stomp the ground

Stop and smell the roses

Find a friend with time to spend

Take a trip

Buy some stuff

Clear your mind

From the grind

Stop and smell the roses

It’s the day you’re okay

Time and money

Make their way

Find your niche

Scratch the itch

Stop and smell the roses

I love flowers. In fact I have often thought that in my next life I would be a florist, or something that had to do with flowers. I love them when they have been refrigerated and there is a cool freshness about them. Think about the petal of a rose, how soft it is. And then of course there is the luscious scent. I can smell it, can’t you?

A friend of mine recently sent me an e-mail with all types of roses. She said, share them with your friends. So I am sharing them with you. Close your eyes and smell this beautiful rose.

Now ask yourself, how often do I stop to smell the roses in my life? Do I take the time for myself, give myself permission to want what I want?

The More You Think About And Verbalize What You Love,

The More You Will Attract It To You. We Are All About Energy!

I also love the opportunity I have to share my thoughts with you.

Please share your thoughts with me and share these flowers with your friends.

Be kind to you today. You deserve only the best.

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