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Sep 29 2013

YOU ARE NEVER ALONE

“It may seem as if others can add to or take from, what you have and who you are, yet at the end of every day, what you have and who you are is entirely a function of your thoughts, beliefs, and expectations.”  The Universe

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Isolation is a terrible thing.  Whether it is by virtue of your physical location or situation, or it is emotional, being cut off from the world produces a myriad of distortions about life.

Emotional isolation often results from a variety of circumstances.  Someone may say something that is very hurtful, which begins to erode your sense of self, ie: self-worth, self-esteem, self-confidence and so on. This internalizing further causes you to begin to withdraw and stop socializing.  Before you know it you are completely convinced that you are not worthy, have no value and are filled with shame.

One of the worst cases of isolation results from emotional or physical battering.  Young women are most often the victims, with men comprising only 15% of the total battered community. No one deserves to be battered or controlled by another person. What is truly sad and disturbing is that the victim thinks that she deserves it because she has done something wrong.

Each month I host an Inspiration/networking breakfast where women share their inner most fears and anxieties. This past month, one woman talked about her nine-years of marriage as a battered wife. “Each time he hit me I would think that maybe it was because the floor wasn’t clean enough or that can done something else wrong,” she said.  “Because of the bruises, I hated to be seen in public and became very withdrawn.”

Fear, anxiety, shame, are just a few of the emotions that lead to isolation, not withstanding the bruises.  Once in that very dark place, your mind and thoughts begin to further distort reality causing a downward spiral into a very deep depression. You become your own worst enemy because you are afraid and ashamed to reach out and seek help.  The greatest fear is of being judged as worthless.

You are never alone! For every emotion that exists, there are thousands of people feeling it. We all experience negative thoughts about ourselves at different times for different reasons.  The best thing that can be done to regain a positive sense of “self “ is to talk to someone about it. Although our friends can be very supportive, sharing our innermost fears with them can sometimes make us feel far to vulnerable and exposed.

 

Fortunately today there are many places for you to go to get the help that you desire and deserve.  Don’t be alone and live in your own head with negative thoughts. Reach-out as there is always someone there to help you.  Our goal today and every day is to share our passion of Energizing, Encouraging, Engaging, and

Empowering you to learn that you are THE MOST IMPORTANT PERSON IN YOUR LIFE! Always love you.

 

 

OPEN THE CAGE

M.J.Waldock, 10/09

 

Fear, it paralyzes us to the core.

Our central being becomes trapped

in anxiety and doubt.

Caged like the lion we peer through

the bars at the outside.

Frantically pacing to understand

our dilemma and find an answer.

Always reaching through the openings

Grasping at the chance to gain freedom.

Open the cage, please, and let me out.

 

Marlene J. Waldock is an inspiration speaker and personal coach.  She is the former TV Host of NJ Business and has written a book of inspirational poetry.  For more information visit: http://www.becausewearewomen.com.

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Feb 17 2011

Give Yourself a Valentine

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed bythe things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sales. EXPLORE, DREAM, DISCOVER.” MARK TWAIN

February is the month of Love. At our February Inspiration Breakfast we talked about giving yourself a Valentine. It seems to be so difficult for us to do nice things for ourselves.

It’s part of our upbringing. We were taught not to focus on ourselves, Why? We are the most important person in our lives, and if we aren’t good to ourselves, who will be?

START THE DAY OFF RIGHT

We are primarily energy. How we think and feel contributes to that energy, and then is transmitted to everyone around us. When we think good things, the energy is positive. When we feel negative, the energy reflects that attitude. The people around us feel our energy and react accordingly. Therefore it is important to always think positively and well of ourselves.

What is the first thing you say to yourself in the morning when you look in the mirror? Is it something good? Here is a poem to help you think about it.

REFLECTIONS by MJ Waldock

When I look into the mirror

I see a funny face

A crooked nose, and eyes too close,

And lines that I can trace.

A body that goes up and down

The scale and dress size too

It’s not what’s in my mouth so much

My head is like a zoo

Sometimes I feel I’m in a cage

A lion with a roar

And other times I’m oh so free

An eagle, I can soar

If only I could fix the flaws

And look like all the rest

Then I could hold my head up high

And feel I’m at my best.

But beauty comes from deep within

It’s not a surface thing

And even with my flaws and such

I have a lot to bring

To feel secure within my soul

All I need to do

Is love myself, for then you see

My beauty will shine through

May 2005

FALL IN LOVE WITH YOURSELF

“To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance.” Oscar Wilde

What makes you, you? To grow you must nurture yourself in every way. If you expect to be loved by someone else, you must love yourself first, in spite of the flaws. What is good about you? Begin by listing the good things about you – physically, personality, skills. Then be thankful every day. This is part of our abundance.

IMPRISONED BY SELF CRITICISM

“I CAN, is 100 times more important than IQ.” Author unknown

The CRITIC WITHIN is our worst enemy. We often berate ourselves over the tiniest things. We do something that we think is stupid or dumb, and then we dwell on it or hours, sometimes days. This self-criticism negatively affects everything that we do, and we miss many opportunities being stuck in our own jail cell.

WHAT HAVE YOU DONE THAT WAS GOOD? DID YOU PRAISE YOURSELF FOR IT? DO IT NOW!


DON’T BE A WORRY WART

There is only one way to happiness and that is to cease worrying about things which are beyond the power of our own will.” Epictus


CONTROL WHAT YOU CAN – YOU!

We have all heard the saying: “The only thing is life that you can control is yourself and your reactions.” So then, whey do we worry about things for which we have no control? When you worry, you create anxiety which is negative energy, and impedes your ability to be you and live more fulfilled. WHAT DO YOU WORRY ABOUT?


ASK THE UNIVERSE FOR HELP!

Spend your time thinking about what you can do. If you think the situation is out of your control, then ask the Universe for help and then believe that is has already happened.


TRUST AND TRUTH – IN OURSELVES ALWAYS

“Trust Yourself. You know more than you think you do.” Benjamin Spock

IF YOU DON’T TRUST YOURSELF, WHO CAN YOU TRUST?

Do you have confidence in your own abilities? Do you talk to yourself about what you can’t do instead of what you can? What do you want to have happen and why don’t you trust yourself that it will? Visualize it!

HONESTY IS THE BEST POLICY.

Are you truthful and honest with yourself? Loving yourself requires that you be truthful about your feelings. If you are sad, feel bad, are scared, acknowledge it. By acknowledging it, you can change it. What truths are you not acknowledging?

“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sales. EXPLORE, DREAM, DISCOVER.” MARK TWAIN

YOU ARE A BEAUTIFUL, DESERVING BEING. Follow these steps.

1. NURTURE YOUR DREAMS

2. BOOST YOUR SELF CONFIDENCE

3. RELAX

4. HAVE FUN

5. LOOK FOR THE BEAUTY IN EVERYTHING

6. LOOK AFTER YOUR BODY

So What are you going to do for the next 30 days?
Say ” I Love You!” at least once a day.

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Apr 15 2010

Your Story

Inspiration comes in many forms. Inspire someone else by telling us your story. Share your dreams, fears, successes or any other piece of inspiration that may help someone else.

Face in the mirror
(Norman Rockwell Photo – The Girl in the Glass)

We are working on a TV Talk Show all about women. You could be selected to be a guest. So tell us a good story. Be sure to tell us the “How To” of your success and how you managed the “Emotional Roller-coaster” that we all ride.

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